I have a story to share with you today. It's a story of a revelation that came to me as I was working on this sweet stool.
You see I found this stool in a garage where it had sat neglected for years collecting dust and hiding under layers of paint.
This little stool sat for a while as it wasn't it's season to go through a change.
I pulled it from my stash the other day knowing the time had come. I sat it in the middle of my workshop as a reminder that the time for a change was upon us. My original plan was to clean it up, sand off as much paint as I could and give it a new green paint and some new fabric. An easy makeover so to say.
I started removing the dirty red material. It was so old & worn out that it was brittle. What was inside of the red material as a cushion? It was straw. Dusty, dirty, stale and really old. In fact it was so old that it was turning to dust as I picked it up. It made me start sneezing like a maniac. I pulled it all out and tossed it right into the trash. Sometimes we need to just toss out the old & toxic to bring in the new....
I began pulling the frayed remnants under the upholstery nails and cleaning up the nail area. I also cleaned up the base by sanding back the white paint and wiping down with a little Simple Green. The little legs on the bottom were made of iron, which I would venture to say was painted with gold spray paint. I was starting to see the beauty of what was under the layer of filth that had collected over the years.
With my original plan of replacing the fabric with new fabric, I didn't really have to pull every single upholstery nail out. But, as I began the process I had a crazy revelation come to light, one that I had been asking for an answer to for weeks now. This stool had other plans for me.
You see I have been struggling with a loss. The loss had me upset because what I thought once was a lasting friendship had failed me, but also a business opportunity that I was getting ready to dive head first in to had come to a sudden halt. Now I will not get into specifics, but this little stool was speaking to me & telling me to listen up as I was working on it.
I was turning the seat looking at the lines, I realized what had been exposed. A lesson I've learned in life is, what appears to be on the surface isn't necessarily what's on the inside. Sometimes we are so blinded by what we think we know, only to have things drastically exposed to us.. heart stopping at times. Some friendships aren't always what they appear on the surface. It's only when the layer of filthy fabric is lifted that you see the truth of what lies beneath. Some not so pretty, some amazing in it's state as is. At that moment is when I realized that some friendships that were being exposed to me were amazingly beautiful, and my eyes had been blinded by the friendship that was leaving me, had left me. It was then that I pretty much broke down in my workshop. Revelation!
Once that revelation was realized I was even a tad angry, enough so I almost drop kicked that stool right out of my workshop. Even though I had been asking for answers, I wasn't sure I wanted the truth. I nurtured a friendship that wasn't real, only appeared to be on the outside, and once I pulled back layers is when it was exposed. Truth hurts sometimes, yet it is so freeing.
As I looked back at this once old dirty stool, I realized all things are for a reason, season or lifetime. When the stool was made, it was made of wood & metal with beautiful lines, built to last a lifetime but to go through different seasons for different reasons. I studied the lines and the original state. It, the stool & friendship, was gorgeous at one time prior to being neglected. Wow.. another revelation..dang you stool....you're killing me.
But, as I continued to work knowing I owed this stool now, I knew that this beautiful stool would be just fine without that layer of fabric to cover it's natural beauty. So with this, my mind wandered back to the a reason, season or lifetime. What was my lesson from this friendship that was no more? I believe it is this.. not everything or everyone is apart of your life for a lifetime. It may just be for a reason or a season. That's not always an easy concept to grasp, but once you do and you pick yourself up, you become a bigger/better person. Take a lesson from the reason or season to give you strength and wisdom. Hold tight to those that are for a lifetime, you need them to get through all faucets of life.
And, once the reason or season has moved on, don't let it determine who you are, just know you've gained another important lesson in this canvas we call life.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
This stool that once donned beautiful red fabric and gold legs for a reason that suited the prior owner taught me a true heartfelt lesson. I have chosen to keep this stool without fabric, which may only last for a season.. that is still yet to be determined. But, what I know is that as it sits in my living room, the reason will be a reminder of the beautiful friendships that have come whether they are here for a reason, season or a lifetime.
Be blessed my friends!
Be blessed my friends!